You've made your choice to adopt a non-monogamous approach to relationship and now you have to actually make that transition -which is not always an easy thing to do. However, your future self will thank you for spending more time at the beginning of your transition to create a more personalized and mindful approach that both fits your needs and accommodates them.
Again, transitions are always difficult to deal with and can be quite overwhelming at first. Take it slow and follow your own pace when exploring the alternative relationship that you want to pursue.
Learning about non-monogamy allows you to negotiate effectively and understand what goes into creating a healthy relationship with yourself and others.
Always seek to personalize your definition and experience to gain a better understanding of what fits you personally. Non-monogamy is not and should not be a one size fits all.
If you're a couple opening up, you have to both be in agreement about the relationship style you're going to be co-creating. It'll take a lot of talking to each other and trial-and-errors -and it's OK.
Discuss your desires and wants with your partner(s) with the goal of informing, not enforcing. It's OK if they're not on board, still, they'll know there is room for exploration and communication to happen.
It's not easy to know exactly what you want or what is not okay before experiencing it sometimes. Allow yourself and your partner(s) to be wrong and for updates to happen -it's a continuous work in progress so don't be harsh on yourself.
As life goes on and you gain more experience, you'll get a better understanding of yourself and others around you. Use it to keep co-creating the relationship(s) that works for you.
Make sure to watch out for the red flags in any scenario. Run far away from toxic behaviors and don't let anyone tell you your opinion counts less because of your lack of experience! Your opinions, instincts, and gut feelings are all valid.
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